THE HEART OF A WOMAN

Love makes the world go round, It seems easy for one to admit that falling in love is  the best thing that has ever happened to him or her. Well it could be, but i believe falling in love has its advantage and dis advantage.

Firstly, one advantage of falling in love is that you have someone by your side, someone to share life's adventures, a support system. Love makes life more exciting and enjoyable. You’re healthier physically and mentally, you get to experience the greatest mysteries of life. Relationships can motivate you to be a better person, you have someone to care about you, you won't be lonely, you will be able to give and receive love and affection. Relationships can also add drama to your life, you lose privacy and freedom.

The disadvantages arise not because of love but due to relationships, but because we love someone when they betray us, it affects us greatly in a negative way. Betrayal in a relationship can make one go insane, one can easily lose focus or traumatised, although we would probably not feel that way if we did not love that person in the first place. Another disadvantage is  feeling confined or trapped. It's like a feeling where the percentages of love are not balanced from both people. Love is not a bed of roses, it requires commitment, dedication, time and resources. Also, sometimes, expectations result in disappointment.

Love, just like every other thing in life has its ups and downs. To be in love or fall in love, the person in question needs to be mentally and physically ready or you might not survive the downs in love, like a friend of mine always say "enjoy the pleasure, survive the pain", although falling in love is not an easy game as some people refer it, however, everyone has the right to feel loved even if its once in their lifetime.
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ON - LINE DATING

Since the introduction of technology, dissemination of information and communication  has been made easier through different means, one of them which is the social networks. Social networks such as facebook, twitter, my space, you tube, to mention but a few has been used to enable easy communication. The introduction of these social networks has also opened a plat form for online dating. People hook up on the net and  fall in love which might have a happy as well as bad ending. This is common among college students and high school students. The amount of time in which youngsters spend on social networks has escalated immensely, judging from the fact that these socal networks can be found on cell phones and people can easily go online even while in their bed, walking, etc.

The validity of on-line dating has been questioned enormously, the benefit as well has been interrogated. The truth is, online dating could be beneficial and dangerous at the same time. There has been several occasions where people meet their life partners on-line. However, many people believe that on-line dating is done for the fun of it, reasons been that, the fact that the relationship is a distance one, there could be a high level of infidelity and some people prefer on-line dating with the objective of developing a personal, romantic or sexual relationship.

On-line dating can be catastrophic, because of its high leve of falsehood. When getting involved with people online, it is advisable to be aware of scams. Cases have been reported where girls were raped, people duped and more online daters will be duped as technology increases and more social networks are been introduced.

It is true that people want to be loved, they want to feel loved, but is also important to be mindful of the people we fall in love with, most especially when dealing with relationships online because most people do not appear to be what they claim to be on-line.

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FALLING IN LOVE

Love makes the world go round, It seems easy for one to admit that falling in love is  the best thing that has ever happened to him or her. well it could be, but i believe falling in love has its advantage and dis advantage.

Firstly, one advantage of falling in love is that you have someone by your side, someone to share life's adventures, a support system. Love makes life more exciting and enjoyable. You’re healthier physically and mentally, you get to experience the greatest mysteries of life. Relationships can motivate you to be a better person, you have someone to care about you, you won't be lonely, you will be able to give and receive love and affection. Relationships can also add drama to your life, you lose privacy and freedom.

The disadvantages arise not because of love but due to relationships, but because we love someone when they betray us, it affects us greatly in a negative way. Betrayal in a relationship can make one go insane, one can easily lose focus or traumatised, although we would probably not feel that way if we did not love that person in the first place. Another disadvantage is  feeling confined or trapped. It's like a feeling where the percentages of love are not balanced from both people. Love is not a bed of roses, it requires commitment, dedication, time and resources. Also, sometimes, expectations result in disappointment.

Love, just like every other thing in life has its ups and downs. To be in love or fall in love, the person in question needs to be mentally and physically ready or you might not survive the downs in love, like a friend of mine always say "enjoy the pleasure, survive the pain", although falling in love is not an easy game as some people refer it, however, everyone has the right to feel loved even if its once in their lifetime.
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THE HECTIC FRIDAY

It was a hectic day on this faithful friday for me and my best friend Aissa in Sandton. A friend of ours invited us to an acting audition. The audition was about a sopie on mtv channel called “shuga”. We have never being to Sandton on transport but we decided to give it a trial that Friday. The address was sent to me on BBM(blackberry messenger), we had no idea how to locate the place, we had to show the address to the bus driver and he accepted to drop us there. We got into the bus and the driver took off, on getting to Sandton, he stopped and said to us, “you can get off here, take your left and go towards the BP garage”.

We did as he said, but unknown to us the drive has no idea where we were going and instead of telling us, he just left there. It was a terrific experience. We had no idea where to go from the garage. We decided to keep walking. We walked for some miles and there was still no trace of the place. The day was cloudy, windy and it was about to rain, I had no umbrella with me but to God be the glory my friend remembered to bring one along, which was our only savior although it was a small one and the wind tried severally unsuccessfully to snatch it away from us but we tried to hold it tight. We kept on walking, at a time; my friend suggested that we try one of the producer’s cell phone numbers because we were getting lost. I did and she said we were still far and it’s not a walking distance, that to us was crazy because we’ve being walking for hours and now this lady is telling us we were still very far away. We were tired and hungry, I actually suggested we go back home but my friend was like; let’s continue, we’ve come a long way and going back is not a better idea now. So we called the lady again and asked how we can get a taxi to the place, she told us how and where to drop.

We took the taxi and finally we got the place, Ahh, what a relief. We got in and they were all apologizing, offering us snacks, cold drink, beer but all we asked for was a glass of water first before any other thing. We sat down, took the glass and then went for the snacks and cold drink. The audition was not really an audition, it was more like a chat with the producers because we were seated in a big round table while the producers throw questions and we all attempted from our different personal perspectives. The meeting went successfully although we were late but at least we attended, we managed to get there. We actually left before time because it was getting late and we came from a far place. It was 6.50 and we needed to get going or we will be stalked in Sandton.

We waved them goodbye and thanked them for having us and then, was the beginning of another problem; getting a taxi to go home. It was late and all the buses were gone, we stood by the road for hours waiting to catch a bus but none was available. We were devastated, I was actually boiling inside, I was so upset and we had no idea where to go from there. There was nowhere to spend the night and we had no cash to lodge into a hotel. It was terrible, we were confused, no one had an idea on what to do and my friend needed to get home because her elder has being calling to know where she was, and she told no one where she was going because we left from school. The sister was pretty upset because Aissa refused to pick her calls, but to God may have it, my friend had some cab drivers’ contacts, we contacted them, the first number we tried went through although we had no cash on us, and we had an agreement to pay when we get home, the cab driver accepted.

He had to drop my friend first because she stays with her sister in bucclue while I stay around school. On agreement, the cab driver dropped my friend, she went in, came out with the money, paid him and we drove off. I got home, paid the driver as and he left. I couldn’t believe I was home, as I opened my door I fell to my bed and the next time I opened my eyes, it was 6.am. I got a call later from my friend telling me how she slept off as well as she got home. It was really a wonderful experience for me, though I was upset that day but I couldn’t stop laughing as I think about what went down on that faithful Friday.

INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS



The word intimate refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association or belonging together. It is a familiar connecton with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other. Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency and reciprocity. Intimate also means a person with whom one has a particularly close relationship. On a generalised perspective the meaning and level of intimacy varies within and between relationship.

To sustain intimacy for any length of time requires well developed emotional and inter personal awareness. It results in a connection in which there is an emotional range involving both robust conflict and intense loyalty

From a centre of self-knowledge and self-differentiation, intimate behaviour joins family members, close friends as well as those in love together. Poor skills in developing intimacy can lead to getting too close too quickly, struggling to find the boundary and to sustain connections. Psychological consequences of intimacy problems are found in adults who have difficulty in forming and maintaining relationships.

Intimacy can take different types: physical, emotional and experiential. Physical intimacy takes the form of touching such as holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing and other sexual activity. Emotional intimacy develops after physical bonds have been established. Experiential is when two people get together to actively involve themselves with each other.

 Intimate relationships provide a social network for people that provide strong emotional attachment and fulfil our universal need of belonging and the need to be cared for.